Thursday, April 24, 2008

A Confused Existence

A few summers ago, when I was still a teenager... an age when people expect you to be terribly confused. Strangely, I never was!! I knew what I wanted, why I wanted, what were my backups and how to go about it too. I wasn't a confused chap at all. A little more than half a decade after school, I retract my statement - I am confused. I'm in my twenties and while I do have a decent career and other stuff in my life in proper place, I'm strangely restless. As per Maslow's hierarchy principle, I am approaching the top of the pyramid. Suddenly, I'm unsure of the future. The unpredictability in the entire situation is getting to my nerves. This forced my look around at other individuals who are in the same age bracket as that of me. And strangely enough, I realise I ain't alone. To a greater or lesser extent we all are going through the same psychological pressures. The unpredictability of the future on a professional and personal note is driving most up the wall.

The lessons learnt aren't too different either. You realise that people around you are selfish and mean, would do anything to forward their own gains. The close friends aren't really the great individuals you pictured them to be, rather they had an interest in being with you and that sure did/does more harm to you than good. Your job isn't what you had in mind when you started. You want something better, but don't know when or how you'd land there. May be you want a change but that means starting at the bottom of the ladder. Used to the comforts your current pay packet gifts you, this change certainly doesn't appeal to you. Suddenly, you feel lonely.... very lonely.

And when it comes to the matters of the heart... confusion reigns supreme!! If you observe, either of the scenes are being enacted around you: a broken heart, waiting to come across that special one, in love with two at a time and lost on that, uncertainty over the future of a relationship. Am I wrong?? And then comes along the new twist, you want to settle down. Commitment rules topmost on your mind then, each and every action of yours is directed the very same direction. Loans, money, a future together, getting a good life... all this rules your mind.

They said twenties are the best times of our lives and you'd tend to say otherwise. I'd say, its the twenties which make an adult out of a child.This post may seem confused to you, but the fact is I too am going through most the situations mentioned above... and that is gnawing me up. A trifle too much!!
PS: In case, if one wants to read up on Maslow and his principle check out the following sites: "Motivation Theories: Individual Needs" and "A Theory of Human Motivation". You can read up on Abraham Maslow over here: "ABRAHAM MASLOW
1908-1970
Dr. C. George Boeree
"
Apart from that, you can google. You'll find loads on him and his theories. For students of psychology and management, his principle should be the easiest to state off hand.

13 comments:

Realistic me.... said...

:) Interesting post!

The unpredictability about the future is quite bothering indeed though for different reasons.
One can only take it as it comes...

Phoenix said...

All you need to do is hold on, till it settles itself, till it's over. It always gets there

Cuckoo said...

Yes, very true. Sometimes it grows into lack of confidence and loss of identification. But this too shall pass.

:-)

P.S.- Can you pls enable the Name/URL option for commenting ? My this id will take you to my old blogs.

Bubbles of FireWhiskey said...

i like the unpredictability in life... sometimes its that surprises that make me feel like i am truly alive... :)

Mez said...

Hurray! Ask me why...cauz u have depicted my state of confused mind here. There is confusion about everythin...the future looks obscure, the present i am dissatisfied with and the past haunts.

I feel i cud have done much better professionally. 20s are the most tensed times yaa.It's all worry time :O

solo said...

all confused souls bow down to this man!
he has, successfully put all our feelingsi n words!
hurray!

Macadamia The Nut said...

Sigh, growing up is so painful sometimes.. the end better be worth it ;)

Solitaire said...

you were the 8th commentor....u hv to do the tag!!!!!!!

Vandita said...

hmmm couldn't have been more true...
uncertainty abt the future is something that bothers me every now and then.

Keshi said...

thats why I dun think abt the future all that much anymore.

Keshi.

Sam said...

@realistic: quite true.. but then the human nature doesn't allow the mind to stop from pondering, does it??

@phoenix: it never settles!!

@cuckoo: it passes.. and at times with no lasting effect...
i'l look into the one you've mentioned.. though latest link is updated on my blogroll :)

Sam said...

@bubbles: i think we are talking of different things here!!

@mez: u speak my mind there!!

@solo: lolzz....

@macadamia: how i wish it is so... lets hope for the best!! the show must go on!!

Sam said...

@solitaire: yes ma'am!!

@vands: i knw...

@keshi: wise move but not everyone can do it, r8?? :)